Self Awareness: The Critical Skill Most People Lack

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In today’s world, most people have a lack of self awareness. Self awareness is the skill of being aware of your own personality and how you are as an individual. This is a critical skill to have in order to have consistent success in your life.

When you are self aware, you fully understand your strengths and weaknesses, as well as how others see you in the outside world. This is key to navigating life and finding out what opportunities are best for you (and which ones to pass on).

Most people today are running on autopilot and are too busy with life’s daily distractions to really look inside themselves. So today, we will be learning how to increase self awareness and hone in on this important skill. 

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Taking a few minutes each day to meditate is critical for increasing your self awareness.

When you clear your mind of the things that keep us distracted all day, you’ll naturally start to increase your mindfulness. This gives you time to really explore your own personality and what you like and dislike about it.

From there, you can start to break bad habits and change the personality traits you don’t like about yourself.

In attrition, meditation doesn’t have to be laying down and closing your eyes. Taking a quiet walk surrounded by nature is also a fantastic way to clear your mind and become more mentally aware. 

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Journaling is a fantastic way to increase your self awareness and solve problems that you’re dealing with. I try to journal every morning and write down what makes me happy that day and what doesn’t. As the book becomes full of pages I can look back and notice patterns of my personality.

This is also a great way to work on deeper problems that you may not want to talk to anyone else about. Writing is a great outlet for this and has solved many of my mental obstacles. 

Write Down Your Goals

Writing down your goals is a great way to increase self awareness. What do you want out of life? Where do you want to be in the next 5 or 10 years?

If you’re feeling like you’re in a slump and doing the same things every day then this is a great exercise for you. I wrote down my goals in a timeline format starting from the end goal and working my way backwards putting in the steps along the way to get to my main goal. 

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Think Before You Speak

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and you’re just waiting for them to finish whatever they’re saying so you can tell them your story? That’s called bad listening skills, and a majority of the population suffers these days because of it.

The next time you’re in a conversation, try to be mindful of what the other person is saying. Don’t butt in or tell a story unless someone asks you. Otherwise it can seep like you’re trying to “top” their story, and most people don’t like being dominated in a conversation.

Practicing the skill of listening and being mindful of what you say is a critical step in increasing self awareness. Not to mention improving your relationships!

Ask Your Friends

If you’re brave enough to handle honest criticism from your friends, asking them what they think your flaws are can be a real eye opener for you.

Maybe you have a toxic habit of gossiping about others that you weren’t aware of yourself. Or maybe you have a bad habit of sabatoshing close relationships because you fear commitment that you didn’t know about.

Gaining an outside perspective from your friends shows you how you appear to the outside world. 

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What’s The Worst Feeling You Could Have?

When you think about emotions, what’s the one that you try to avoid at all costs? Is it sadness? Guilt? Shame? Selfishness? Take some time to figure out what emotion you are always trying to run from and why.

Once you know what your emotional kryptonite is, you can start to ask yourself why you avoid it, and you will begin to understand your subconscious motives behind the things you do.

Maybe you hate feeling sad so you constantly buy things to make you happy. Once you realize that it’s sadness you’re trying to avoid, you can focus on why you feel sad instead of trying to remedy the emotion with material things.

This is a very important step in becoming self aware, and definitely shouldn’t be skipped!

Practice Saying No to Yourself

Will power is something that should be practiced daily. Teaching yourself to say no to things you don’t need is a powerful part of self control and really affects how you live your life. This is especially true if you do things like emotional eating or emotional shopping.

Learning to tell yourself no to something that you want in the moment can really change your life, your finances, your health, and relationships with those you love. 

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Hold Yourself Accountable

Mistakes are inevitable in life. But how you handle those mistakes shows other people how self aware you are.

Say for example you’re telling a friend an embarrassing story about another friend. The friend that heard the embarrassing story from you goes to your other friend and tells her that you’re talking about her behind her back.

When the friend confronts you you have two options: Play dumb and tell her you didn’t do it or hold yourself accountable and admit that you told the story and be willing to face any consequences.

Holding yourself accountable shows a lot about your character and that you have enough respect for that person not to lie to them. 

Monitor Self Talk

Have you ever thought about how you treat yourself in your own head? Is your inner voice nice to you? Or does she always have something negative to say about you?

The way you think about yourself can really affect your attitude and how you view the world. If you catch yourself having nagging negative thoughts, acknowledge that you’re doing it and force yourself to change the script.

In addition, make sure to actively give yourself at least 3 compliments a day. This is a great way to increase self awareness and also your self esteem!

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Monitor Body Language 

Have you ever seen a picture or video of yourself when you’re not paying attention and you have horrible posture? It’s the worst! Unfortunately we can’t control when someone points a camera at us, but we can make the conscious effort to improve our body language.

Remind yourself throughout the day to stand up straight and keep your shoulders back. You can even use this posture corrector to help you keep your shoulders back without having to think about it. Uncross your arms and legs to show that you aren’t closed off to those around you. And focus on maintaining eye contact when you’re having a conversation with someone.

Increasing self awareness of your body language will change how you see yourself mentally as well as how others physically see you as well. Not to mention looking better on camera!


Self awareness is one of the most important skills to have in order to have success in life. It teaches us not only how we view ourselves mentally but also how others view us externally.

What ways can you improve your self awareness? Let me know in the comments! 

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